Saying “Thank You” and “please”, is one of the most powerful blend of words in world.
Saying “please” and “thank you” are more than just recognizing, appreciating and showing gratitude. Yes, saying them puts YOU in a positive light and it is a reflection of your overall character, but it has a much larger impact. It creates positive social bonds with friends, family, and colleagues, along with whole outsiders. Let’s think about it for a moment. Let’s say you work in customer service, which many of you reading this do. Someone walks in a says, “Give me that.” So you give it to them and they walk away without saying a single word in return. This can have a series of effects on you. You can either not give a damn, which is okay, but after it happens more routinely, you start feeling abused and experience a decline in your self worth. If it affects you immediately in a negative way, your mood is affected and so are those around you. Insecurities rise, self-image becomes altered and a rise in anger and depression occurs.
Remember to harness the power of Please of Thank You.
To understand the importance of using “please” and “thank you” on a regular basis, maybe taking a step back and understand more about this single word and this little phrase will help shed some light on its significance. Let’s start with the word “please.”
In essence, when you say “please” or “thank you” you are asking and then thanking the individual for making the choice to take on a task or activity. Contrarily, when you don’t say please or thank you to someone for a task, they feel like they had no choice in the matter and thus no power. Which leads to appreciation…
People need to feel appreciated and loved
Human beings are sensitive creatures, more so than any other animal because we’re one of the few (if not the only but perhaps dolphins too based on studies) that have consciousness (feelings, thought, etc). By saying “thank you” you’re also saying “I appreciate you”. It’s so simple and effective.
Making others feel good brings good in other unpredictable ways
By making someone else feel important and appreciated, you’ve brightened up someone’s day in the smallest of ways and that person is more likely to pass on that feeling to someone else. If they feel dejected and under-appreciated, they tend to take it out on those close to them (spouse, kids, friends, etc). The act of saying thank you is also powerful in that it makes people more willing to do something for you again in the future. Creating a cycle of goodwill is essential if you believe in karmic energy (“what goes around comes around”).
Saying thank you is the simplest form for practicing gratitude
I wrote about the importance of gratitude here. Practicing gratitude is the #1 way to be happy (it’s a choice FYI). If you’re having trouble with your mental state of mind then start crawling before you walk by saying thank you to anyone and everyone. The act will make you feel better and will benefit you in unpredictable ways as it will the recipient.